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What happens when you remove all impediments but your own fear?

That is my “BIG QUESTION”—the question my life endeavours to answer.

Everyone’s life has purpose—everyone’s birthplace, situation, those circumstances into which you were born and seemingly have had no say in and no control over in this life—have purpose.

What have I been born into? An easy life. Born in a first-world country. Into a family that struggled a little for the finer things in life but none for basic needs. Privileged enough to attend university and earn two degrees. Lucky enough to secure a good job directly out of school. Never having experienced a single injury, serious illness, nor accident. Having the privilege to stay home with my children past infancy into their childhood. Wanting only for the occasional vacation, but, otherwise wanting for nothing. How did I earn such a privileged life? And why?

Because this is my gift: to experience a life in which all physical impediments to my success—to fulfilling my purpose in this life—are removed and all that’s left is me. It’s all on me.

Eek.

As I’ve sarcastically commented too many times: “but, no pressure…”. No excuses. No hurdles to leap. No boundaries to cross. No external resistance to overcome. Nothing but my own self-created, internally constructed walls to climb or break down. Walls built of fear and self-doubt and self-guilt.

So, what happens when you remove all impediments but your own fear? Apparently, in my case anyway, you still struggle. But, isn’t that the truth for all of us?

Let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is…fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.

Franklin D. Roosevelt

32nd President of the United States, First Inauguration Speech, Saturday, March 4, 1933

Regardless of the circumstances into which we were born, or the circumstances into which we landed ourselves afterward, we all have to choose: to advance into unchartered territory or to stay in safety. How?

I’ve started to tell myself the most comforting and confidence-invoking words I’ve ever heard. I don’t believe anyone has ever said them to me, but that’s okay. I’ve started saying them to myself:

“You’ve got this.”

Stand in front of the mirror and look directly, unswervingly, into your own eyes—the windows into your own soul—and say to yourself: “You’ve got this.”

Because I do. You do. You’ve Got This.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Marianne Williamson

A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles", Ch. 7, Section 3 (1992), p. 190